http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/en-EUMokoFeed10http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/17/8bc025ac0d631931220e579e46e65d_160x200.jpghttp://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2008/01/04/new_year~3529925/#c5651483tag:platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk,2008-01-05:/2008/01/04/new_year~3529925/#c5651483Sat, 05 Jan 2008 12:28:02 +0100in my experience if you allow this situation to continue it will remain so forever. dont buy the groceries, dont make dinner, dont clean for while. let him starve and run out of clean socks and see how he reacts. if you are working and bringing home the income then he has to do the housework - sorry i am very down on freebooters at the moment. good luck with him and your MSchttp://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2008/01/04/new_year~3529925/#c5651483http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5554439tag:platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk,2007-12-23:/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5554439Sun, 23 Dec 2007 14:43:36 +0100The depression is part of who he is. There will always be ups and downs. There is no cure. The question for you is whether you are able to ride that rollecoaster? <br> Don't be surprised if he isn't aware of the impact he is having. As someone who does suffers from depression (not severly), when I felt down, I felt nothing. I didn't talk to my partner at the time, not because I didn't want to but I literally didn't feel I had anything to say. My partner said it was like the shutters came down and he couldn't get through. <br> I've learnt over the years to deal with my depression without drugs and the lows are getting further and further apart. That's because I've wanted to do something about it. But as Blacksheep says, you can be there for him, but you can't help him. That's down to him.<br> All the best. I'm happy to chat if you want to try and understand a little more. http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5554439http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5553408tag:platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk,2007-12-23:/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5553408Sun, 23 Dec 2007 12:26:53 +0100it doesn't sound like healthy love to me. as for the depression - well it is the depression but surely it is also him as well. we can help people and we can help people to help themselves but ultimatley its up to them. sorry, ive been there with friends and a partner. i hope you have a happier day todayhttp://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5553408http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5551903tag:platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk,2007-12-23:/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5551903Sun, 23 Dec 2007 03:17:48 +0100read me it may shed some light ?<br> <br> good luck :)http://platypuspuspus.blog.co.uk/2007/12/23/beginning_or_end~3480886/#c5551903